15 WAYS TO STOP BULLYING YOURSELF #StopBullying

15 WAYS TO STOP BULLYING YOURSELF #StopBullying

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15 PASI PENTRU A INVINGE AUTOSABOTAREA

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Autosabotarea reprezinta implicarea in comportamente ce te conduc catre rezultate pe care tu nu ti le doresti. Cei mai norocosi le constientizeaza la timpul potrivit, insa continua sa isi faca rau singuri prin urmare isi taie singur creanga de sub picioare. Dacă iti doresti sa elimini autosabotajul din viata ta, atunci poti sa te pui pe treaba in felul urmator:

#1. Admite ca te autosabotezi! Fii barbata! (Tipatescu via Zoe, “O scrisoare pierduta” de I.L.Caragiale). Acceptarea autosabotarii este primul pas spre vindecare (ca sa fiu radicala).

#2. Constientizeaza si scrie pe o foaie de hartie cum te autosabotezi! Gandeste-te la anul care a trecut si scrie cum anume te-ai limitat singur, in toate aspectele vietii tale: job, viata personala, prieteni, familie, bani etc.

#3. Admite ca esti singurul responsabil pentru gandurile si actiunile tale! Da, oamenii, situatiile in care te afli, un anumit context, o simpla coincidenta iti pot influenta imaginatia, gandurile si, in final, actiunile. Cand vei avea 100% control asupra ratiunii, vei inceta sa mai dai vina pe celelalte persoane pentru esecurile tale.

#4. Intocmeste planul de bataie! Acesta va combate orice incercare de autosabotare pe viitor.

#5. Impartaseste-ti planurile cuiva de incredere! In doi ai mai mult curaj si vei fi motivat fara sa vrei: poate fi un prieten, un membru al familiei, partenerul de viata sau chiar un mentor specializat.

#6. Admite ca schimbarea se face doar cu efort! In fond, este vorba despre tine si despre viata ta!

#7. Crede in tine! Chiar daca acum ti-e greu, cauta metode de a-ti intari increderea in propria persoana!

#8. Promite ca din acest moment incetezi sa te mai autosabotezi! Poti chiar sa scrii pe o hartie aceasta promisiune si sa o semnezi. Va avea un efect extrem de puternic! Esti liber sa iti pui prin casa post-it-uri (via #BeingMaryJane)! Pune-ti memento in fiecare dimineata! Reciteste fraza in pauza de masa! Orice functioneaza pentru tine!

#9. Sarbatoreste-ti eforturile care dau rezultate! Meriti sa sarbatoresti daca ai avut un succes pe acest drum al schimbarii. Si cu cat vei sarbatori mai des, cu atat vei prinde mai mult curaj, iar lucrurile vor fi din ce in ce mai usoare! Tot ce trebuie sa faci este sa fii sincer cu tine insuti! Nu trisa cad oar e in defavoarea ta!

#10. Invata! Citeste orice crezi ca te motiveaza sau te inspira!

#11. Respinge negativismul din orice directie! Fii sigur ca vei mai avea ganduri si emotii negative, insa, cu timpul, vei filtra informatiile si emotiile si vei impiedica “norul negru” ce inainte te apasa asa tare. Cu totii avem acel prieten prapastios care parca nu iese din cenusiul vietii. Nu fi tu acel om! Fii omul care se schimba, care il schimba!

#12. Da-ti voie sa te transformi! Deschide-ti mintea catre noi posibilitati si prinde oportunitatile care te inconjoara. Gandeste diferit!

#13. Gandeste-te si la posibilitatea de a folosi suport profesionist! Daca incepi sa dai inapoi sau esti departe de a-ti gasi singur resursele si puterea, cauta solutii! Poate fi un consilier, un mentor sau chiar o persoana care a trecut cu succes prin asa ceva.

#14. Persevereaza! Este singura metoda care da rezultate. Cu siguranta, daca te opresti vei esua iar startul va fi de 2 ori mai greu.

#15. Reinnoieste-ti promisiunea ori de cate ori simti nevoia!

Stiu ca suna ciudat si pare o lista prea lunga! Insa fiecare pas este gandit si testat pe propria piele. Cu totii am avut, cel putin o data in viata, o pasa proasta in care parca totul parea negru. Parcurgand pas cu pas, vei fi uimit sa constati ca esti din ce in ce mai multumit de tine, vei simți cum lumea din jur se schimba! Pentru ca tu te-ai schimbat!

Self-sabotage is the behavior which leads to bad results you don’t even want. The lucky ones observe them at the right time, but they still engage in the wrong actions, therefore they are bullying themselves. If you wish to eliminate the self-sabotage from your life, you can do the following:

#1. Admit the fact that you are self-sabotaging! Be a man! (Tipatescu via Zoe, “A lost letter” by I.L.Caragiale). Accepting it is the first step towards healing (just to be radical).

#2. Write on a piece of paper the facts! Think about the past year and write the specific actions that you sabotaged: the job, the personal life, friends, family, money and so on.

#3. Admit that you are the sole responsible for your thoughts and your actions! Yes, the other people, a specific situation, a certain context, a coincidence can influence the imagination, the thoughts and the actions. When you’ll control your mind 100%, you’ll stop blaming others for your failures.

#4. Make a plan! This one will beat every wrong turn.

#5. Share with someone you trust! You’ll have more courage, you’ll be much more motivated when you share the plan with someone you trust: a friend, a brother/sister/cousin, the life partner or even a mentor.

#6. Put effort in it! After all, it’s you and your life!

#7. Believe in yourself! Even though it’s hard, search a method to do it!

#8. Promise from this moment on, that you’ll stop bullying yourself! You can even write it on a paper and sign it. It will mark the moment! You can put post-it in your house (via #BeingMaryJane)! Set the alarm every morning! Read it in the lunch break! Whatever works for you!

#9. Celebrate the efforts that pay off! You deserve to celebrate every step of the way in which you have succeeded! If you celebrate it more often, you become motivated even more and the things will get easier. All you have to do is to be honest with yourself! Don’t cheat!

#10. Learn! Read whatever inspires you and keeps you focused!

#11. Reject all forms of negativity! You’ll still think in the wrong way, but, in time, you’ll become positive! Step by step! We all have that one negative friend! Don’t be that one! Be the one who changes him/her!

#12. Go with the flow! Open your mind toward new possibilities and take advantage of the opportunities around you! Think outside the box!

#13. Consider to talk with a specialist! If you start to back off and you don’t have the strength to do it, search a simple solution. It may be a counselor, a mentor or even a person who experienced it before.

#14. Be persistent! It’s the only way. If you stop, you’ll fail and the start will be twice as harder.

#15. Renew your promise every other day!

I know it may sound weird and the list above is too long! But every step of the way is tested. We all had, at least once in a lifetime, a bad day in which everything seemed the worst ever. Taking it step by step, you’ll be amazed to see who you became and you’ll see the world in a different way! Because you’ve changed!

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